5 Danger Signs of Long Distance Relationship You Should Watch Out For
Will it or will it not work is a dilemma faced by a couple romantic to each other but lives miles apart. Undoubtedly, people in a long distance relationship need to do a lot more in order to keep everything alive and lasting. However, as with any other relationships, one should be wary of some signs that foretell the romance could be heading nowhere but downward. The following are 5 danger signs that your long distance relationship could be in danger.
1. Succumbing to Negative Comments
As if being miles away from each other isn’t enough, a long distance relationship is also prone to negative comments from people surrounding you. Things like your loved one could be cheating or the relationship itself is not going anywhere often will plague you. Once you succumb to these, you will only begin to surrender fighting for the relationship and look for someone else who’s physically around. Sometimes too, the reason why you’re buying all these notions is you need an easy way out of the long distance romance.
2. Dwindling Enthusiasm
Keeping the fire burning constantly sure could be difficult in a long distance relationship. But fortunately for the two of you, technological advancements, particularly the internet, makes it somewhat easier. However, if the availability of such still can not prevent growing less and less enthusiastic of the relationship by the day, you know there’s something wrong. It is said that distance makes the heart grow fonder. But if your heart starts wandering around and longing for your loved one less and less, then maybe you’re passionate about the relationship no longer.
3. Constant Investigations or Suspicions
Of course being separated from each other makes the two of you susceptible to temptations. And this is where trust comes in very importantly. Frequent nagging of each other about things like secretly dating someone else or not being a hundred percent true to each other can really get on the nerves – especially if none of it is true. Or it’s also possible you’re projecting your very own shortcomings towards your loved one from miles away. If distrust seems to grow more and more intense by the day, it’s time for a long heart to heart talk to know the real score.
4. Going for a Temporary Replacement
Letting someone else into your life as a temporary replacement for your loved one who’s not physically around is a huge mistake. Sometimes this may be done unintentionally, but sometimes it’s done deliberately. By doing this, even secretly, you’re breaking the trust, confidence and potentially the heart of your partner from afar. If keeping yourself diverted at all costs still makes you long for a physical replacement, then you know you’re in a shaky long distance relationship. Once you begin to notice someone else nearby is catching your attention or fancy, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate things.
5. Frequent Misinterpretation of Each Other
Couples who are next to each others sometimes misinterpret one another’s thoughts, words or actions. What more those who are oceans apart? Frequent misinterpretation of each other can mean a lot of things. It can be days, months or years of being apart make you less and less familiar with each other’s ways. It can be you’re beginning to have some form of distrust on your loved one. Misinterpretations are, once in a while, pretty much normal. But if it happens each time that you get to communicate with one another, it can mean the two of you begin to be more like strangers instead.
If one or more of the 5 signs mentioned above begin to show up, it’s best to talk about it with your special someone right away. Honesty and trusts are two important elements in a relationship, especially in the long distance kind. Through immediate dealing with problems, the relationship can be saved and perhaps even strengthened all the more.


Dan
08. Jun, 2011
I’ve been in a ~very~ long distance relationship for almost 10 years. She’s in the Manila (Philippines) and I’m in the Los Angeles (California ) area. And yes, ~very~ long distance relationships can (and do) work, but it takes both of you to be all in the relationship. And you have to have trust in, faith in and belief in each other…
I won’t sit here and tell you it’s been easy. The truth is it’s not been easy, and with the bumps in the road and obstacles we’ve faced, it’s taken us places on both an emotional and spiritual level I don’t think either of us have ever been before…
Each of these 5 dangers signs have been present at varying times in my realtionship. So read and consider them all…
Jen
26. Oct, 2011
10 years in any relationship (long-distance or not) makes me wonder why you have not “upped” your commitment in some way. Can neither of you relocate? Do you see this relationship developing into something more, or are both of you content to just continue indefinitely in a LDR? I admit it can have its benefits, in terms of space and freedom to do things you like in your own space, but if a relationship becomes serious, then sharing your life with your loved one becomes more attractive than continuing to be on your own. I wonder if the length of time of “dating” his LDR GF that Dan mentions isn’t a danger sign in itself?
louie generale
20. Nov, 2011
you said that the five signs are present, then your relationship is in danger.
if you want to save your relationship, then stay together.
johannah
06. Dec, 2011
for me its a problem i have been having a relationship with a men i’m staying in pretoria he’s staying in johannesburg what ever we argue about his mother she have to know about our problem.and we’ve been in a relationship for 7 years not working by the time he move in joburg then the problem start now he broke up with me