Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationship Problems

As you look outside the window, you see every rain drop in slow motion as if they were your own tears. It’s really sad when the bad weather reminds you of your partner outside the country. You can’t personally see him/her, hug him/her and kiss him/her. These are just some of the disadvantages of a long distance relationship.

Yes keeping a long distance relationship is not without its hurdles and set of worries. You may ask everyone who has tried it and you’ll end up with a single answer – being involved with it is very difficult. Yes, successful long distance relationships can and do exist but huge problems may and will occur as well.

There are a lot of problems regarding long distance relationships and it depends upon the personality of each couple. And oftentimes some couples have unique dilemmas native to them. But here are some general problems that might arise.

We are only human; you are not perfect and so is your partner so arguments, fights, conflicts, anger, defensiveness, and walls may hinder you from your being happy. Temperature may flare up and things might go out of control. Are you equipped with the right mindset to douse off the flames?

When insecurity and jealousy kick in, it’s really hard to keep composure. No matter how you try, you may get off balanced. There will be times in a long distance relationship when one half of the couple feels abandoned. What may seem to be normal when you were still together feels a little bit uncomfortable, such as his friendship with others. You may think he’s flirting with other women even if his intentions are harmless. You may feel insecure at times and you may even push him to get involved with other women. Doubt plays a big part in ruining long distance relationships.

There will be trust issues and lies will come flying from different directions. You may have friends feeding you with information which are half true about him, which will make you confront your partner. And the problem starts. You don’t know whom to listen to anymore. You are confused.

Other problems occur when partners don’t share the same views. Dealing with this problem in a local relationship is hard enough but dealing with it in a long distance relationship makes it harder. What if he doesn’t want to get married? What if commitment problems start to arise? He may want his freedom and you may be too possessive and controlling. Manipulation can also destroy a wonderful relationship. Learn to loosen up the noose, respect and be respected, trust and be trusted.

When one of the couple suddenly changes, the other might panic. Lack of communication may cause this to happen, or maybe an external factor. If they are separated by different time zones, then scheduling conflicts will arise. This makes communication very hard. It’s challenging to get a real time feedback which makes it hard for both to update each other. The simplest things can spark a big fireball, so its vital to keep an active communication.